The effects of having no discipline as a child have been devastating to my life. With no father in the home, and a mother who was too busy working, I grew up with so much freedom that when an authority figure tried to direct me or restrict my actions in any way, I rebelled by lying, sneaking around, or by outright disobedience. These actions, which went unpunished, developed in me an attitude of contempt for all authority. It also made it easy for me to neglect to develop some of the most important characteristics needed to be a stable and reliable adult — traits such as motivation, patience, perseverance, honesty, soberness, and dignity.
I grew up to only value the things that gave me pleasure. I had no security, no peace, and no sense of well being. In fact, what I had was a great sense of guilt, anger, and shame, which I continuously tried to mask with the many distractions of this world.
I am so thankful to have finally found the source of true authority, and to learn that there is, indeed, a way to raise my own daughter to value good judgment and self-control. Coming into the communities of the Twelve Tribes, I have witnessed the beneficial effects of disciplining our children, and can say with full confidence that “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” (Proverbs 13:24)