I was also one of the children that were blessed to be born and raised for a purpose. My parents raised me according to God's word that is recorded in the bible. Like Proverbs 22:6 says, the way you train a child, that's how they will be when they are old. So because my parents are living for a purpose and were going to raise us for that purpose, they obeyed Proverbs 23:14-15 and 13:24. They didn't tolerate disobedience, disrespect or rebellion. But what I remember is that I always knew how to make them happy and loved knowing that I pleased them. When I chose not to do what pleased them, the thought of them being sad was terrible to me. But that never made me want to run away and hide or not see them for a while - because I knew the only way to feel better would be to receive my discipline. So they never had to get mad, frustrated, or felt like they had had enough, because things were always kept simple and clear. And then they forgave me and they were happy with me again. And so I always knew I was loved because they disciplined me. Discipline was and is never a means of punishment, let alone a way to express frustration. Discipline is our Father's way to show a child the way that is good and which pleases father and mother, and the way that is bad and does not please them.
When I see children that don't have parents that discipline them, I feel bad for them. They rarely know that their parents are pleased with them or even how to please them. Because they aren't being taught - they are just tolerated. I do think that every human should have to admit that you can only tolerate for so long; when toleration ends, frustration begins.
The God we serve is LOVE. Love is not toleration and certainly not frustration. Read Proverbs 13:24.
1 Corinthians 13:4-9 says more about the ultimate standard of love. I strongly believe that love is the law and there is no law against love. 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 tells about how no matter what awesome and miraculous deeds you do, if you don't have love you are nothing. So I must add that if you spank your child and you don't have love, you are nothing and it won't profit your child at all.
I will live my life for the purpose I was born for and love God by obeying His commandments.