"How can I make up for the evil I have done by aborting my child? Or, would I have done a greater evil by bringing a child into this world? In this day and age, what chance does a child have not to be raised to go to hell?"
What is a fetus? Is it alive? Is it a human being with an eternal soul and spirit that will have to spend eternity somewhere? Where will he spend eternity if he dies in the womb?
A child grows into a full-fledged and responsible human being, a member of the human race, with a conscience that holds him accountable for the choices he makes, according to the knowledge of good and evil inherent in all men. As a spiritual creature, he is also vulnerable to the evil spirits that lead the whole world astray from their created purpose. So what chance does he have to spend eternity in good standing with his Creator, who made him responsible to determine his own eternal destiny?
Here is a great dilemma: Is it a greater sin to abort a child, or to bring him into this world and let him go to hell? Perhaps the greatest horror is the adult human being who was raised to go to hell and is now responsible for where he will spend eternity. Will he end up in that place of eternal torment which Yahshua,1 the Son of God Himself, the Word of God incarnate, told about in the Gospel according to Luke?
There was a certain rich man who was clothed in purple and fine linen and fared sumptuously every day. But there was a certain beggar named Lazarus, full of sores, who was laid at his gate, desiring to be fed with the crumbs which fell from the rich man's table. Moreover the dogs came and licked his sores.
So it was that the beggar died, and was carried by the angels to Abraham's bosom. The rich man also died and was buried. And being in torment in Hades, he lifted up his eyes and saw Abraham afar off, and Lazarus in his bosom. Then he cried and said, "Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus that he may dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue; for I am tormented in this flame."
But Abraham said, "Son, remember that in your lifetime you received your good things, and likewise Lazarus evil things; but now he is comforted and you are tormented. And besides all this, between us and you there is a great gulf fixed, so that those who want to pass from here to you cannot, nor can those from there pass to us."
Then he said, "I beg you therefore, father, that you would send him to my father's house, for I have five brothers, that he may testify to them, lest they also come to this place of torment." (Luke 16:19-28)
In the Gospel According to Mark, the Son of God again makes it clear the state of a person who ends up in this place of torment. Three times He describes that place: "...where their worm does not die, and the fire is not quenched."2 There is no exit from this place. How one lives his life in this age determines his eternal state of being. There is no way out once this determination is sealed at the judgment.3 There is no second chance, but only the outer darkness where there is weeping and gnashing of teeth.
For you formed my inward parts. You knitted me together in my mother's womb. (Psalm 139:13)
So which is the worst sin — to have aborted one's little developing baby, or to have let him come to birth and then raise him to go to hell? Abortion is definitely a great sin, but could it be worse to have a child? Today, so many are being born and so many are being aborted. What happens to both? The wages of sin is death.4 Whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.5 But what seeds does a fetus sow? Or what wages must be paid by an aborted baby?
For the Son of Man goes as it is written of him, but woe to that man by whom the Son of Man is betrayed! It would have been better for that man if he had not been born. (Mark 14:21)
The Son of God Himself said that it would have been better for Judas if he had never been born.6 It would have been better for him if his mother had aborted him, rather than to be raised to be the one who would betray the Son of God. Surely, the same could have been said of those who yelled, "Crucify Him! Let His blood be upon us and our children."7 Where will they spend eternity? And where will their children spend eternity, if they inherit the same hatred?
So what did Yahshua mean when He said it would have been better for Judas if he had never been born? How would it have been better? Surely He was thinking of the judgment that awaited Judas, once he had made the choice to betray Him. An unborn child would fare better in the judgment than a person who had lived to make the kinds of choices Judas had made. There would be mercy for the unborn child, but no mercy for the one whose choices in life brought ruin to the lives of others.8
But what is the hope of one who is born in this day of unrestrained selfishness, when good is called evil, and evil is called good?9 What will become of someone who is morally abandoned, growing up without parents who train him up in the way he should go?10 What does the Bible call someone who is not disciplined as a child? The good old King James Version doesn't mince words:
If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all [in a healthy society] are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. (Hebrews 12:7-8)
Who is guilty here? Yes, it is true that a child will die for his own sin,11 but what about the so-called father who failed to discipline him?
Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? (Hebrews 12:9)
Does this not concern one's eternal destiny, in speaking of the Father of spirits? The natural fathers are compared to our heavenly Father, who desires that we would have eternal life, not eternal death.
So who is the biggest bastard, the child or the father who does not discipline him? If one's child that was not aborted is then not disciplined (which all true sons are, that is, sons who are not morally abandoned so as to become bastards), what will become of him? Such a son is obviously hated, and not loved:
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. (Proverbs 13:24)
So what if one's child is not aborted, but is then not disciplined?
There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death. (Proverbs 16:25)
These days, it seems right not to spank children. They say they love their child too much to spank him, but the Bible says that kind of permissive "love" is really hatred, as the parent dooms the child to continue in his folly. So these unloved children will end up in hell (death), along with both the parents and the society that agrees with this mode of raising children.12
So are the Proverbs false? What then is "the way he should go"? Whose standard should mankind adhere to? The Apostle John said, "The whole world lies in the power of the evil one,"13 and that the evil one's chief occupation is to lead mankind astray.14 Do you think for one minute that you are not being led astray? So the Word of God is mankind's only hope of deliverance from the evil one's strategy.15
So what is the way a child should go? The way of the world, or the way of God? How many children today are not being raised to go to hell?
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol ["hell," the abode of death]. (Proverbs 23:13-14)
If one curses [slights, shows disrespect or contempt for] his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness. (Proverbs 20:20)
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. (Proverbs 29:15)
Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart. (Proverbs 29:17)
Abortion would normally be considered the height of pagan barbarity, but the only moral sense that can be made out of not aborting a child is that the parents would actually raise him up in the way that he should go, so as not to go to hell:
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol. (Proverbs 23:13-14)
We write these things for your consideration and not as a political stance either for or against abortion. The abortion issue is one of the most polarizing of our time. It is a complicated matter with many facets. We are grateful that Yahshua gave His life to bring about a brand new culture where children can grow up with a purpose, nurtured by parents who love one another. Yahshua once said, "Wisdom is vindicated by all her children."18 We take our stand with the wisdom of God, which is contrary to the teachings of Dr. Benjamin Spock.